Have you ever had the chance to meet a group who mirrors your own? Crazy, huh? Well, wait ’til I tell you more about it.
I met the titwas group thru my Insta. It was mommah Racki as I fondly call her who started it all. Because of her obsession with Hermes, little did we know that it will bring us together and would be a start of a good friendship.
So the 3 of them (Tita Ana, Tita Me-An and Mama Racki) and my kuris (Kakat, Maan and I) were officially introduced during my birthday bash.
All six of us were seated together and as the conversations got deeper, we all realized that all three of them were actually the older versions of the three of us!
Mama Racki= (the ultimate madame who loves everything beautiful) = Me (ambisyosa ako bakit ba)
Tita Me-An (the more reserved one) = Maan
Tita Ana (The jack of all trades)= Kakat
Even the way we react to certain topics, people, chikkas are technically the same.
Mama Racki the feisty one who always has a witty response to almost everything resembles my persona in all ways possible. Generous, loving and extremely busy. Of course good traits, needless to say. 😀
Tita Mean always responds with a giggle and a more subtle way, like Maan. Then again whenever she starts warming up and tell her stories and addiction to shoes- be prepared to laugh your heart out- exactly how Maan is the ultimate Kuri. Tita Mean’s love for shoes extended to my shoe room —- we share the same size. What a lucky woman! hahaha!
Tita Ana, (BTW Kakat’s first name is Ana) who never lets her friends down— and is always present is also such a character. Like Keket. She travels to learn new stuff and ask her- just do- to travel the following day and she will make a way to join. (kakat na Kakat di ba?) bwahahah! She lives to travel. Works for her loves—- her passion and shopping included.
What makes me happy and proud about having these girls in my life is the fact that there are no insecurities between us. Everyone supports each other and is always happy about our achievements. Together, we are unstoppable. All three of them technically work in the same field. Each co-existing with one another. They support each other by helping one get good deals should they have clients who needs the services of the other.
Isn’t this amazing? For me, this is how empowered we should all be. Instead of pulling one another down, let’s help each other rise up. At the end of the day, it’s nice to have a bottle of sparkling altogether laughing off the hardships and learning from them too.
I believe the people I lost from the past were replaced by better ones and of course better with my constant group.
I look forward to learning more and enjoying more blissful years with these ladies. 🙂
By the way, we had a small get together with the titwas earlier for Tita Ana’s Bday. Look what she wrote for me instead of I making some tear jerker lines for her.
Touched, blessed and loved all the time.
The world is full of pretenders, blinded by money, eaten up by greed. I came across a couple of people this week who actually proved to be a proof that con artist are everywhere. Clad in business attires, disguised as someone concerned yet at the end of the day they only intend to consume you and suck up the life out of you.
Recently, I met someone exactly like that. Since the person saw I find it quite difficult to say no to people in need, this person took that as a way to use it to her advantage.
Although I have a soft spot for the needy, I’m not stupid. The person tried to get everything that would be of advantage to her. Yes, unfortunately despite being in an industry requiring credibility to remain in the circulation, she fell short.
It’s quite alarming how a professional can turn to a con artist in no time. Then again we can’t always shrug it off.
Anyway, enough of that strong and long introduction. I was actually trying to come up with a way to open the topic about dealing with difficult people around us.
Although they may have their reasons and in as much as we want to analyze their situation and empathize with them, admit it, there will always be times when you just can’t take those anymore.
You see, the world is comprised of takers and givers. It’s actually a well known fact that I am a giver. I’m not the one who likes to be on the receiving end. I also find it hard to say no to those who ask me of something.
I know, I am extremely generous and whoever begs to differ most probably never had the chance to be close to me, really. Then again the thin line that differentiates generosity to being gullible is definitely there. It’s amusing to see people who are “users” sorry for the term. When they get something from you, they look forward to more and make it seem like you are indebted to them.
To the rest of the populace like me, I think its about time to learn how to say no. At the end of the day, they need know where they stand and what they’ve done to deserve it.
To the rest of the people who thinks receiving is better than giving. I tell you, the kind of satisfaction you get every time you’re able to help others is different. It kind of feels addicting actually and you feel as though you are some sort of wonder woman (well at least for me) hehehe.
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I often get a lot of compliment about my being thoughtful, generous (to a fault) and kind (to those who knows that behind my strong persona is a very soft hearted human being). Out there I’m one tigress but in my fortress I take care of everyone around me.
Then they go asking me, “why are you so generous?” “you can possibly be a rich woman easily what with your hard work and all the money you share”.
One time in an overseas rendezvous with my friend from a different country, she told me, “you know, money is of no value to you for the people you love”. I smiled and answered:
“you see, there’s no point in saving everything when you can’t enjoy what you worked hard for with those who matter to you.”
Ever since Ioveluxe started to get somehow recognized by a few, I felt the need to share all the more. I may not look like it but you know, I always believe that I am one of the stewards being used to spread whatever little act of kindness thru what I worked hard for to those around me. I am the happiest everytime my mama smiles when I surprise her with small things, big presents, small envelopes to donate etc.
It has always been my innate trait to give more than to receive. Oftentimes, I even get taken advantage because of it.
I think, my purpose apart from being a good person and mom, is to be able to share in every little way.
I don’t think there’s any point in working hard and not share. My life, as I always say that there’s no sense in living an abundant life all to yourself.
My business you know, not only helps myself but a lot of people around me. Staff, runners, delivery men, my helpers, my driver. basically everyone around me.
I think I was given the gift of connecting to people so that in return I can create a breathing room to those around me.
Just some random thoughts on a Tuesday while nursing my flu.
I have another topic to write about in a bit.
On a scale of 1 to 10, how can you rate your motherhood skills?
I know most of my clients are female. Majority of which are moms. I, being a mother myself oftentimes think about how good or how lacking I am as one.
It was in 2013 when I conceived my little man, Connor. Back then I faced a lot of challenges. I struggled as to how I can be a good mom to my son.
There were people who judged me. To the extent of trying to call me names for trying to rest once when my bunny got sick. Without even knowing that it is I who is awake the whole night to look after him. It actually scarred me. Those were one of the lowest points of my life. I asked myself, I resented, I almost gave up, really.
Then one morning, I read an article about how moms show their love to their kids. Others are hands on, while some, I included, see to it that all their children’s needs are well taken care of. I believe I take after my mother.
Growing up, mama and papa were busy and I grew up with my lolo and lola. That didn’t make me any less loved though. If anything, it made me strive harder to protect my spot as being the 1st in class and the whole school. So at least in my own way I can give back to my parents who works hards for me.
As for Connor, a lot may not seem to understand, some, like in my case will judge you for the choices you make. When Connor was 1, I had to make a very tough decision of leaving the country. Due to some circumstances I have no control over, I stayed abroad all on my own.
I remember there was a time when my son needed to be hospitalized and I realized that I can never rely on anyone. I then started to appreciate every sacrifice mama had to make when I was growing up in order to provide a comfortable life for me when my papa passed away, more.
I know that most people still have the perception that motherhood means you always have to be there physically and making sure to attend to all your children’s needs. I beg to differ though. We all have our own motherhood styles.
Choosing to have a career in order to provide the best this world can offer for your child doesn’t make you less of a mother nor, less of who you are. I think, we should never allow the opinion of others get into us.
At the end of the day, their opinion can never pay hospital bills, school requirements, travels, clothing or even food expenses.
I believe I have the people who looked down on my parenting style and those who believed I can’t stand on my own feet to thank for making me very strong and persevering. If only I could give the world to my son, I would have.
Finally, I will make sure that when he grows up I will be supportive of all his endeavors. When the time comes that he has to settle down, I pray that I never judge the person he would end up being with basing on social status.
Life is full of surprises anyway, who knows? The one you called names not so long ago will also be typing an inspirational article like this 😉
My love affair with hip hop and RnB began in Middle School.
It was Jay Z who first caught my fancy. I was then introduced to Kanye West, Lil Wayne, Snoop D-o-g-g, P. Diddy, Eminem and a whole lot more. I can go on and on and this entry won’t even end. hehehe.
I can clearly remember every song from those years that became my favorites.
Snoop’s Vato, Mary J Blige’s Be without you, Lil Wayne’s how to love, Jay Z and Kanye’s Watch the throne Album-yes all of it. Trey Songz’ heart attack, to great and unexpected collaborations like Beach chair from Jay Z and Chris Martin, Bey and Jay’s Hollywood, Lift off, ughhhh. My ultimate idol in the industry.
I remember singing to almost every song Bey and Jay would release.
I’d like to share with you at least five of my favorite jams of all time. I’ll do it random;y as it would be extremely hard for me to choose my top favorites.
> Let me start with beach chair- part of Jay Z’s Kingdom Come album
I can’t seem to get hold of a decent link to share the song with you. So let me just share a part of the lyrics.
Benzes round corners where the sun don’t shine
I let the wheels give a glimpse of hope of one’s grind
Some said: “Hov, how you get so fly?”
I said: “from not being afraid to fall out the sky”
My physical’s a shell so when I say farewell
My soul will find an even higher plane to dwell
So have no fear, just know that
Life is but a beach chair
I made it (cash money heroes) Kevin Rudolf feat. Lil Wayne, Birdman, Jay Sean
My favorite lines:
I look up to the sky
and now the World is mine
Ive known it all my life
I made it, I made it!
I used to dream about, the life Im living now
I know that theres no doubt.
I made it, I made it!
> Live your Life – T.I feat Rihanna
My favorite verses:
“Hey, never mind what haters say
Ignore ’em ’til they fade away”
“I’m the opposite of moderate
Immaculately polished with
The spirit of a hustler
And the swagger of a college kid
Allergic to the counterfeit
Impartial to the politics
But still’ll grab a nigga by the collar quick
Whoever havin’ problems”
“You’re gonna be, a shinin’ star
In fancy clothes, and fancy cars
And then you’ll see, you’re gonna go far
‘Cause everyone knows, just who ya are
So live your life (Hey! Ay ay ay)
You steady chasin’ that paper, just live your life
(Oh! Ay ay ay)
Ain’t got no time for no haters, just live your life
(Hey! Ay ay ay)
No tellin’ where it’ll take ya, just live your life
(Oh! Ay ay ay)
‘Cause I’m a paper chaser, just livin’ my life
(Ay) my life (Oh) My life (Ay) my life (Oh)
Just livin’ my life (Ay) my life (Oh)
My life (Ay) my life (Oh)”
> Welcome to Hollywood by Beyonce feat Jay Z
I can’t seem to find the original mtv of this one so here’s the link of the lyrics I founf on youtube
> Mirror – Lil Wayne feat Bruno Mars
“With everything happening today
You don’t know whether you’re coming or going
But you think that you’re on your way
Life lined up on the mirror don’t blow it, woo.
Look at me when I’m talking to you
You looking at me but I’m looking through you
I see the blood in your eyes
I see the love in disguise
I see the pain hidden in your pride
I see you’re not satisfied
And I don’t see nobody else
I see myself I’m looking at the…”
> Drop the World- Lil Wayne feat Eminem
LOL I know I’m such a heavy hip hop fan. Don’t get me wrong though, I appreciate music in all forms, just that since I’m all girly, this is the only aspect of my being where I can be like a man. 😀
So the big day we all waited for finally came. Brushing aside the incident brought about by the designer, we all enjoyed the wedding and had a great time. It was indeed a celebration of love, family and friendship.
with Rv Mitra
These are just some of the photos I collected which I will update when the official ones are out. It was a very happy and emotional wedding. Maan and I gave our speeches.
As always we didn’t prepare anything. Instead, we talked and shared everything based on how we felt and our memories. After our speeches I saw a couple of friends teary eyed and walked to me to tell me that they were moved. That our friendship and closeness is something they admire. I am happy to hear that from other people. As I always say, I only have a number of real friends. For others to admire the level of friendship that I have with my best friends means so much to me.
I actually am very happy for Ferds and Kat. I pray that they be blessed with a union that’s blissful and meaningful. May you both enjoy this new chapter together and remember that we are just here for you.
Attaching the SDE from RV Mitra photography to all of you. #FerdsKatForever
Wee! will finally start working tomorrow. Been married to the bedroom this past coupla days. Preparing for another meeting tomorrow. Something I’ve been waiting for and is extremely special. I can actually consider it a milestone for my career. Yii!!
As I was organizing my stuff, (got my new dolce and gabbana notebook today wee) I chose my beautiful vintage gem of a baby to use for tomorrow.
My vintage Kelly 32 ostrich sellier in gold hardware.
Unlike my pink birdie, this one is more structured since it’s sellier. I use it for more formal meetings since it looks more business like unlike the relax feel of the pink retourne which I often use for casual days out.
Will update this post with what’s in my bag by tomorrow. Happy Friday everyone!
So my second magazine feature for the year is already out. YAY!!!
Before finding out that this issue is already out, was actually thinking of a very good way to open a very very important topic for me. Before I go there, you might want to take a look on and read about my journey here first.
As with my other magazine features, I provide my own wardrobe. Simply put, Whatever I wear is something I actually own. I don’t pull out. Why did I have to reiterate it? Simple. I am allergic to counterfeit.
Does anyone recall the song “Live my life”?
In one of the verses, TI said: “I’m the opposite of moderate, Immaculately polished with the spirit of a hustler and the swagger of a college kid, Allergic to the counterfeit, Impartial to the politics, Articulate but still would grab a n by the collar quick”
As if he is writing for me, I am like that. For one, since I was a little girl, it was never my thing to wear anything that does not belong to me. I’d have lesser (chos) things than most in my ballet class but mama and papa always makes sure I have the best they can provide. At 8, my aunt gave me this apple green dolce and gabbana t shirt. I have two major things I keep in mind ALL THE TIME. Wear something branded all the way, or something that does not have any but is not an inspiration or an imitation.
Growing up, mama always taught me to only embrace what we can afford. NEVER go over what we have just to look cool. 9 years in the business and I still go by that rule every single day.
You see, not that I am bragging nor for the purpose of letting anyone know the kind of life I live, I had to make a decision to open up at some point and let those who warrants and suggests negative things about me get to see who I really am.
Yes, the clothes are all designer stuff. I saved a lot to be able to buy myself those pretty ones. Those who know me knows how I get happy whenever I get to own something from the runway, from the season’s collection of gabbana, fendi, J brand, Valentino, Chloe, Philip Lim to name a few. I’m not talking about overruns (not that I have anything against it either) but you see it’s all hard earned money that I wear. It’s my representation. Why do I have to expound on this? Simple. How can someone who can’t even bring herself to wear something that is not from the store itself ever use ANYTHING knock off? I don’t own one, I don’t support any of those.
It took me 9 years and in the span of 9 years it was only as of late that people try to throw false tirades on me. LIKE COME ON. Please. Look at me in the eye and tell that to me, and I bet you 100 percent it will back fire to you. Even in Jewelry, I’d rather have only one pair of cartier earrings, and a piece of Alhambra necklace than buy something inspired. It’s not me. It will never be me.
Tell me then, does it make any sense for people to say otherwise? When in reality, not even a fleeting moment for pleasantries nor a simple social media check was done yet there they are spitting words as if they’ve seen me grow up.
My Connor is also way too exposed to this. It’s either he wears dolce or wear generic white t shirt and shorts. NOTHING IN BETWEEN.
You see, you can’t force something you are not accustomed to, really. It will show in one way or another, believe me. Anyway, what’s the best and easiest way to try to smear someone’s reputation? Don’t people throw mud to the things that shine? Typical trait of most people in our circle, sadly.
So I only have this to say to them not analyzing clearly: walk in my shoes, it’s 5 inches, stilettos, pointed toe and in every way hurt your toes—if you’re not the owner you can never walk in them with grace. 😀
In short, I am one who can truly claim, I don’t support counterfeit so I will NEVER let my clients have them too. 😉
As I promised I will be forgiving but I will be assertive this year. So know your laws and stick by them.
Again, Hindi ako gumagamit ng peke. Napahiya na kayo sa pictures ninyo kasi mali ang sinabi nyo once. What do I have to prove to you anyway?
Whoever has a shop, or has followers more than yours would always be accused of the fake thing issue how very funny. Stop it. I’ve done my move so do yours. Lawfully. Properly. Honestly and with integrity. I’m willing to do it over and over again no matter how much time money and effort should be put in to it. Remember that.
And I will see you in court hunny. 😉
I know we are always positive about the New Year and what it holds. I for one am excited. Then again, at the back of my mind I am still uncertain of what could happen.
Don’t we all have that feeling? Yes we are very eager to start again, to have a new chance in everything or start something as one year ends.
Truth be told? As the year changed and another one began, I am quite scared. Why? Maybe because I haven’t gotten hold of the rhythm, the tempo and the beat just yet. Unlike when its already say for instance the 2nd quarter, somehow you already know how to dance with the tune of the year. I mean at some point you can say that oh I’m on a roll. I need to keep up or something.
I am actually quite certain about life’s uncertainties that every time I try to think about it, I tell myself to just relax, take it easy and continue to do what I am doing with more room for learning. Then again I am praying for everything and am asking for Guidance in every step I take.
2017 is looking bright and promising. Brand is due to be in stores 11th of this Month, (Wed) and another feature for a different magazine, which I will write about once it’s out. A lot of more exciting things are on the works and I’m praying for the best of everything.
Although I haven’t really prepared a resolution, I promised myself to do some things I haven’t done in the past year. I will be stronger yes, forgiving yes of course but will never let anyone ridicule me in one way or another. Never let others’ jealousy get me and affect me, instead as I always do, put things in the proper perspective and fight for what is right.
I have actually started it already. With all the people spreading false rumors; online most specially. 🙂 I will actually write about these things once everything has been taken care of.
What about you? I’d like to hear your thoughts on how you feel about the new year. Do you also feel the same way? Let’s learn from each other and keep the faith together. 😉 Feel free to comment and share your thoughts too. 🙂